Love and Sex

Love is the will to “take the risk of being misunderstood, misjudged, or blamed, yet still decide to do something to enhance your freedom.” It is a “decision,” not a “hope”; it is a will, not a fleeting emotion that comes and goes. Love is a solid, unyielding commitment to oneself, carried out in every choice and decision in life—the result of careful thought, not the product of warm, sweet moments of intimacy and whispers. Thus, love must be a choice made by one’s free will, which means it should never be bound by anything. Any attempt to tie down love will ultimately destroy it, even marriage. Sex, by contrast, is just sex. It can never be a prerequisite or condition for love.

Sex requires mutual consent; there’s no “mysterious force” overriding self-awareness—otherwise, porn actors would be “superhumans.” Yet many boast about sleeping with people they dislike as a “skill,” claiming it’s “freedom.” Everyone has their own views on sex, but that doesn’t mean you can ignore consequences or gamble on luck. Sex is a matter of life and death: exposing your vulnerabilities to someone means they could harm you easily. Do you grasp that risk? STDs, betrayal, shattered trust—these aren’t exaggerations. You can’t eliminate these risks, but you must acknowledge them instead of pretending they’ll never hit you.

I believe sex shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip. It won’t “buy” a relationship, love, or forgiveness. Sex isn’t proof of intimacy; in fact, human instincts often reduce desire between people who interact constantly. So don’t treat your body or sex as a tool. Even “good” sex demands communication, practice, and acceptance of imperfection. Disappointments are inevitable—maybe your partner judges you, or leaves you hanging. These moments can scar you if you’re not careful.

Choosing “sex without love” means facing these risks without a foundation to fall back on. But with love? It changes everything. True connection lets you say, “I see your flaws, accept the risks, and still cherish this with you”. Motivation to forgive and understand comes not from “next time,” but from love itself. High-quality sex belongs only to those who love each other—people willing to risk it all for mutual joy. So ignore fools bragging about numbers. Go be with someone who loves you back.